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What to expect in a custody case
September 26, 2017
What to expect in a custody case
Do not engage in a custody litigation if you do not have to do so or go that route. Custody battles are time consuming expensive and wrought with pitfalls.
The Courts are going to look to see who can foster a good relationship between the child and the other spouse. So, if you are both fighting or not talking to each other which is often the case, it can be self-defeating because the judge will make the decision as to which of the parties is the alienating party.
This rule of law has been accepted as pretty fundamental in every custody case across the board. So, being civil toward your spouse during an ongoing custody case is important and is a plus in the eyes of the court because it will look as though you are the parent who can see that it is in the best interests of the child/children that both parents be a part of the child’s life.
The risk inherent in a custody trial are immense and far reaching. So, try to make a settlement before you go to trial. It sometimes becomes understandably impossible because one side or the other wants sole custody or is being difficult and trying to impede your legal rights to custody or liberal visitation.
If settlement is out of the question then get yourself ready for what you will need in a custody trial. Understand that the court looks for what is in the best interests of the child, which parent can promote a good relationship with the other parent, which parent can further the mental, physical and psychological needs of the child. Which parent is the parent that has shown a performance in the past and the propensity to continue to perform into the future, of guiding the child and promoting their education, medical and cultural development. If there is domestic violence the court will also consider that as a factor in its determination as to which parent will get custody. Unfitness to parent is also always a factor.
Be sure you keep a diary each day as to what is going on with you and the children and your spouse as you can use this as evidence later on in case something happens.
Be circumspect in calling the police if no crime has occurred as the courts do not like the children witnessing such things if no real emergency occurred and it looks like you keep calling the police just to gain an advantage in your case. Of course, if a crime occurs you must call the police.
If you suspect child abuse or sexual abuse speak to your lawyer immediately who will guide you as to how to handle such situations and also speak to your pediatrician.
Keep your attorney apprised of major developments in your case and make a list of all witnesses you might call to attest to your parenting skills and be sure as the trial date approaches that said witnesses are available to come to court to testify as just their affidavit is not enough.